So let’s think Long Term here now. What would be my life over the next twenty years in each situation.
Say nothing changes in my feelings. At the one year mark of being here, I decide to move us. What do I do?
Enjoy the city as if it’s a long vacation.
Focus on learning VBA and some other important work skills.
Start searching for stuff in Mpls seriously about 2 months before move. Talk to M about it.
Ideally line up a role before then.
Try to work remote from there at current job.
Then go after the lease is up and the job is ready.
Rent a car and drive back. Have movers move stuff.
Get there before work starts, make sure we have a place to live, etc.
Make a point to go out with friends more. Invite them over more. Start rebuilding some great friendships.
Do a great job at my job. Have sights set on a manager level role within a year or two.
1 Year later-
Get a promotion.
Keep friendships solid.
Save for downpayment.
Buy a house. Live in it and fix it up. Then rent it out in a year or two.
Move jobs possibly to a much better job.
Keep up with friends & family.
Start looking into business ideas.
Buy another house or two. Have 2 rental properties. Keep working at it.
Start a small business.
Pay off girlfriends debt.
Quit the corporate life and do business full time.
Sell one or two rental props and buy our dream house.
Keep friendships strong.
Basically, my plan would be to be financially stable at 40. Have a solid group of friends. See my family and my girlfriend’s family semi-regularly. Own multiple rental homes that are paying for themselves. Be enjoying the Minnesota weather, even the cold.
Life if we stay:
Keep going at my job. Get that manager job in 1-2 years. Stay in our apartment. Start making friends.
Pay off girlfriends debt. Get married, probably back in MN
Be able to afford a nicer place. Still can’t buy.
Have a Director level job. Make enough to maybe buy a cheap house out here.
In reality, this is why I lean towards MN. I feel like I can plan for our future and understand what it is I need to do to get ahead. Here, it feels like I’m working to pay our rent and go out to eat a lot. Yes, the weather is awesome, the job opportunities are better and the city is cooler. But financial independence is not likely out here with me being a finance guy.